Welcome to Connect FCS Ed, thank you so much for listening. I'm your host Barbara Scully and today we are talking about Healthy and Toxic relationships. Creating a place for students, educators and community members where they can talk, share, and advocate with each other. My guest is Libby Gutschenritter, who is the engagement manager for the One Love Foundation, Founded in 2010, the One Love Foundation had a really tragic beginning with a young woman named Yeardley Love, a senior at the University of Virginia. She was smart, popular, athletic, funny and ambitious. Three weeks shy of her graduation, her ex-boyfriend killed her. Her family really didn't understand what happened, but when the trials came to be, they started to hear terms like domestic violence relationship abuse and intimate partner violence. As different family members, friends, coaches and teammates started to tell the story of the relationships that they had seen, the love family realized that the pieces were all there, but no one had the language to put it together, and no one knew that all of the little incidences, encounters and altercations that they had seen, were the puzzle pieces of an an unhealthy and ultimately abusive relationship. Listen on to hear the whole story...
SHOW NOTES:
• They'll try to do anything that it takes to be able to have that, and if that means having an unhealthy relationship, they'll do it because it's some form of connection. Absolutely, and I think something that I think about a lot in the work that we do is relationships aren't just romantic relationships or friendships. Relationships are the dynamics, we have relationship with our siblings, with our co-workers, with our neighbors, with... We have a relationship with our parents. There are all different types of dynamics in our life. (3:55)
• One Love's educational tools are all based around films, and the reason that we do that is because we want to give the young people characters to care about, and so it can be really hard to talk about our own relationships. A lot of our conversations happen in schools, and so I remember back in... Yes, in high school, if I had a teacher to say, Hey, let me talk to me about your relationship, I'd be like, No, I don't feel comfortable. It would be really challenging to start the conversation, so instead, we use films and we use narrative films that show the story of different couples and how their relationships progress. (6:47)
• Social capital is so important. That's how we navigate the world, if you have people who think that you have this happy, healthy, strong, secure relationship, but really it's crumbling inside, you don't know how to speak up, and you do not reach out. That's what happens to young women and young men across the country. (9:18)
• You gotta trust that inner gut, and that's something that I'm constantly trying to share with my own kids, but also with students. You gotta trust your gut, because nine out of 10 times your gut is always going to be right. Absolutely. What resources do you have that educators and our community members can become actively engaged with One Love? (13:59)
• But if you don't know what to say, you can't say anything. And so I think that's, to me, is just the power of One Love, it's is the language and the tools and the strategies of what to say and what to do, and how to help yourself and those that you love and care about. (23:10)
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WHEN DOES IT AIR…
February 17, 2021
WHEN DOES IT AIR…
February 17, 2021